5 Ways to Bless the Heart of Your Struggling Friend

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I distinctly recall the first time someone “blessed my heart”. You know the type: the staged whisper (southern accent optional), big smile and—this is key—behind your back. I was standing in the world’s longest post office line and I had stupidly forgotten to go to the bathroom before I decided to run this brilliant errand. I had all three of my boys with me (cue warning sirens) and I was holding a huge box for a friend that I was shipping internationally, complete with 4,124 forms filled out in triplicate.

There I was, shifting from one foot to another, and my boys just couldn’t. Pull. It. Together. They were squirrely and goofy and decided our local grumpy, fluorescent-flickering post office was the BEST place to play tag.

That’s when I heard it.

“Bless her heart.”

I fumed. I was frustrated with my kids. Frustrated at the lack of public restrooms in the post office. And frustrated that some woman who didn’t even know my story could “bless my heart” in such a way that felt about as far from a blessing as humanly possible.

What was not lost on me at that moment was that we were in the final preparations to receive foster children into our home. We were planning on taking in a sibling group of two, which meant we were mere moments away from jumping from 3 to 5 kids.  I wanted to turn around to this woman and scream “Guess what!? There’s MORE coming! You think I can’t handle these lunatics? Just wait! I’m taking in 2 more! HA!”

A year later and that story still sticks with me. Especially since we now are a family with 5 children and I have had more than a few moments where I’m sure I’ve had my heart secretly blessed for any number of crazy reasons. But there have been so many other moments in the last year where people have truly—and I mean, truly—blessed our hearts while we’ve been on this difficult journey. When people have taken the time to know what will really help us, it is a heart blessing like no other.

If you have a friend who is struggling—whether they are walking a path that is difficult due to illness or uncertainty, living with pain or fear, adopting or fostering, or is trying to save a marriage or her family—wouldn’t you like to become someone who truly, truly, blesses her heart to make her journey a little easier? Make her load a little lighter? But more than that, you will make an imprint on her heart that will never be forgotten. I promise. Because I haven’t.

Here are 5 ways you can bless the heart of your struggling friend:

(To be continued at Next Level Mama)

 

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